Me: That's Grandma Heather, my mommy. This was one of the last photos taken of her. You know what is weird? See how pretty and healthy my mommy looks? She had cancer in that photo but we just didn't know it yet.
Heather: Did she die from smoking?
Me: Well, I guess she did. She died from lung cancer and lung cancer is usually caused by smoking.
Heather: I'm never going to smoke!
Addie: Neither am I.
Me: That's wonderful! I am so glad to hear that! What about when you are older, like maybe 12 or 13, and one of your friends says to you, "Hey, do you want to try smoking?".
Heather: I will say NO!
Addie: Me too.
Me: But what if they say, "Aw, come on. Don't be such a chicken!".
Heather/Addie: (Screams) NO!
We talked a little more about it and how if a friend is calling you chicken because you don't want to try something, then they probably are not a "good" friend to begin with. We thought of the Berenstain Bears book, "The Berenstain Bears and the Bully" and how Too Tall and his gang of friends call Brother Bear chicken because he doesn't want to steal a watermelon.
It was a great conversation to have with the girls. I will be curious to see what really happens as the kids get older and they are faced with peer pressure. All I can do is hope that these conversations that we have now will help guide them as they get older. Ack! I am dreading the tween/teen years!